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Divorced spouses coexisting in harmony

California residents who are in the process of divorce may wonder about ways to make the process easier on themselves. It may be a relief to learn that it is possible for former spouses to get along with each other once the divorce is final. This habit of cooperation is one that might be established early on, such as by attending divorce mediation.

One couple decided to spend the holidays together with their boys, ages 12 and 14, despite finalizing their divorce in Feb. 2012. The father visited the home where the mother lives with the children to help decorate the tree before the day. On Christmas, he planned to return for breakfast and gift opening as a family. Although the father was originally skeptical of the plan, the mother was able to convince him that there are no rules for divorce and that the holidays could be whatever they wanted. This couple is part of a growing trend to end the stereotype of hostile or bitter exes once the marriage ends.

American culture historically has not supported the idea that former spouses can remain friends. However, couples are increasingly realizing that just because the marriage ended, former spouses do not need to fight constantly. One of the most obvious reasons that couple choose this route is for the benefit of the children. Raising children is not easy, and it can be even more difficult without the assistance of the other parent.

When divorce seems inevitable, a family law attorney may be able help negotiate an amicable resolution to important issues including child custody, support or alimony. The attorney may also be able to help enforce or modify the resulting agreement if necessary.

Source: USA Today, "Ex-spouses can get along -- and not just for the holidays", Sharon Jayson, December 23, 2013

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